Talking About Your Wellbeing
With physical health we can simply tell someone else what is wrong with us and we will usually get the support we need - a bit of time off to recover, or have an operation, or some treatment. We just need to say what is wrong with us (our label), perhaps say how we caught or discovered the illness (our story), and then talk about the impact on us - the need for time off to recover, or have an operation, or some treatment.
With mental wellbeing this sort of conversation is more difficult. Talking about things like anxiety, stress and depression is more challenging both for the person talking and for the person listening.
You may find it more effective to nudge the conversation away from any condition and its negative impact on you. It is often the case that you are more likely to get support if you talk about the practical things that someone else can do to help you. If you talk about the sort of things that challenge your wellbeing (your Triggers) and the things that help you stay resilient, this makes it much more likely that the person you talk to can help. That's because they know precisely what they can do to help - they can help you avoid your challenges and make sure that you have your resilent resources.
A Wellbeing Card which focuses on your Challenges or Triggers, and your Resilient Resources, is designed to make a wellbeing conversation both easier to have and more likely to be successful. It reveals the practical things that other people can do to support me. It doesn’t burden them with medical complexity, emotion or personal challenges. It just tells them what support you need so that you can manage maintain your wellbeing and so that you can perform and be effective.
This is what a Wellbeing Card look looks like.
If you'd like to develop your own Wellbeing card there is a Workbook below that you can use to develop a Wellbeing Card that is personalised to your particular challenges and resilient resources