Would you like to explore how to manage your mental wellbeing and strengthen your resilience?
Try this story about Resilient Trevor to find out how to best achieve this goal.
Start by using your imagination to picture the most resilient animal that you can think of.
I'll choose a chunky-looking silver-backed gorilla, like this one, who I'll call Trevor.
What I'd like you to do next is to start to draw a wider picture in your mind. Think about the environment that your resilient creature lives in.
Does it inhabit the rich ocean, a warm savanna, a lush jungle, a well-stocked and well-proportioned zone in a wildlife safari park?
Again, use your imagination to the fullest extent to give your resilient animal a wonderful environment to to live in.
I imagine that Trevor lives in a lush jungle, like this one.
The next thing I want you to do is to imagine taking your resilient animal out of that home and instead place it somewhere entirely different.
I'm going to take Trevor and dump him, rather unkindly, in the Antarctic. He’ll no longer live in the comfortable warmth and humidity of the lush jungle, with plentiful food and like-minded company, with few threats to life.
Instead, he’ll be in the freezing cold with very limited supplies of food, the threat of the hostile environment and the company of penguins with which he has little in common.
I imagine that Trevor would feel far from resilient in this environment. He would probably be scared, hungry, cold and fearful.
Imagine how your animal would feel in its new, hostile environment. How would it feel after a day; a week; a month; a year?
Now imagine that you have the ability to intervene and support your animal. You have the creative power to evolve your animal in any way you like to support it in its changed home. You can alter its physical appearance; its biology, its bodily chemistry and its capabilities in any creative way you like - to help it adapt to this different environment.
For Trevor we could perhaps choose to support him by giving him a thicker coat, layers of fat, more claw like hands to catch food to eat and so on.
But there is another much easier way of helping Trevor.
Without any specialist powers or science-based skills at all, we could have simply moved him from the challenging environment and helped him live in conditions that suit him better.
What do we learn from this exercise for our wellbeing and resilience?
We learn that Trevor was not absolutely resilient. No-one is. He was only resilient in an environment that suited him. And so are you.
We learn that his wellbeing could be supported and managed by being in the right environment. And so can yours.
And we learn that we can only help him if we treat him with kindness, respect, compassion and understanding.
That is what Evenhood is all about. Here you'll discover how to manage your mental wellbeing by being aware of the environments that challenge your wellbeing. You'll be able to strengthen your resilience by living in the environments that suit you best. And you'll be able to support others in the same way by having a mindset based in evenhood so that we treat each other with kindness, respect, compassion and understanding.